Myth: Personal Branding Is All About YOU
April 28, 2008 at 10:46 am | In Book Reviews, Networking, People, Personal Branding, Podcasts, Success Strategies | 17 CommentsTags: dan pink, johnny bunko, self-promotion
False! Personal branding is not about you, it’s about everyone else. This post is required reading for everyone who believes that myth.
Note: I tend to do podcasts when the point can better be expressed through my personality and personal connection.
This all comes together as one of six chapters in Daniel Pink’s new book “The Adventures of Johnny Bunko: The Last Career Guide You’ll Ever Need.” The subtitle may be a stretch, especially because one of the themes of my book is career development (more like brand development), but his six points are extremely relevant to the new workplace. This is the first business book to explore the popular Japanese comic format, Manga. Daniel explored the fine art of manga and hired an illustrator to help him write this book. His previous book, A Whole New Mind was a bestseller and translated into 16 languages. He is also a freelance writer (Fast Company, NY Times) and public speaker. His previous job, before he became a free agent, was the chief speechwriter for Al Gore.
Chapter 3 Myth Breaker
My favorite quote in the entire book is “You’re here to serve, not to self-actualize.” When you are working with a team and serving a customer/client, it’s about them and not you. He goes on to say that the most successful people improve their own lives by improving the lives of others. By helping people solve problems, even if they didn’t know it was a problem, you are more successful. You need to bring out the best in others by making your boss look good and your teammates succeed. Dan’s book is a perfect read for professionals in my generation because it’s short, contains more pictures than writing, and has six major points we can remember. Pickup your free sample here.
Give Before You Receive
When I was growing up, my parents warned me of peers that would ask me for favors, without doing anything in return. This reciprocal nature was never present, but if it was, maybe there would have been a relationship, rather than a “one night stand.” Fact of the matter is that if you take genuine interest in another individual, by giving before you receiving, that karma and courtesy will make you very successful in the long run.
Value Is The Key
“The most successful networkers give value before receiving it.” By emailing or interacting with someone who is more successful than yourself, the key is to have something of value to give to them. This is another reason why blogging reigns supreme. By promoting someone else’s work when they need it (Daniel Pink’s for example), the chances that they will help you in the future are much greater. I’m lucky that I can give a lot of value to others, such as this blog and Personal Branding Magazine. By building media properties, it gives you a channel to actually promote others, while at the same time promoting yourself. No one charges people to read their blogs and because of this “free economy,” people are more inclined to do business with you because they learn to trust you and see previous results and achievements.
People usually won’t help you unless you can help them. What if you have nothing to give?
Everyone has something to give, they just haven’t figured out what! You need to discover your brand and learn what your strengths are and what you can produce for others. You can’t get hired for a job, start a business or do just about anything without knowing what you can provide to others because that’s how money is made and people become customers. Before even being asked for something, take the initiative and do it for that person. Today is national “help someone else,” day which means that if you take the first step today, you will have everlasting success.
How To Find The Perfect Relationship and Your Dream Job
April 25, 2008 at 3:03 pm | In Book Reviews, Career Development, Dating, Interview, Personal Branding, Recruitment, Success Strategies | 1 CommentTags: books, relationships, shawn graham

Now that’s a headline to get excited about. Although I cannot provide all the answers in a single post, Shawn Graham’s new book “Courting Your Career” may help you. The same dating game that we all go through is similar to our job search. For you to stay at a company for over a year, there needs to be some kind of match.
If you treat your career like you do the opposite sex, maybe you will find the right man or woman. Getting on the right career path isn’t simple. Finding your dream woman or man is just as complicated, but today you will learn some tactics from the man who has cross-linked both to make it easier for college students to understand the job search game.
Shawn Graham is an Associate Director with the MBA Career Management Center at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill’s Kenana-Flagler Business School. He also has a personal blog and blogs for Fast Company.
Me: Shawn this book is genius and perfect for college students who can relate to dating and falling into the wrong relationships. Did you have any situations in your own life that helped you develop a book relating dating to one’s career? This question almost forces you to be transparent.
Shawn Graham: In a word…plenty. Especially the similarity between pre-date and pre-interview jitters. Early in my career, I would always let my nerves get the best of me during an interview. I’d be totally prepared and confident until the moment I walked in the door. That’s when I’d fall apart. It reminded me of how nervous I used to get before a first date with someone I was totally into and how nerves and a lack of confidence would squash any chance I had for a second date. One day I finally realized that, looking back, dating seemed to get a whole lot easier as I went on more dates. And knowing that gave me an added boost of confidence going into job interviews.
Me: I think every career development book should talk about “getting to know yourself” which is in Chapter 1 of this book. I call this “discover your brand” and feel like it’s the cornerstone to all things career and life related. What do you recommend people do to learn about themselves and what resources are out there to research careers and industries?
Shawn Graham: Start with friends and family. Where do they work? What do they do? Think about what you like/dislike about their jobs.
Think about your major. Did you choose something that will almost certainly lead to a job directly after graduation like engineering? Or did you major in something you like (for example philosophy), that won’t necessarily lead to a job without an advanced degree.
Make a list of jobs you think you’d like. Then consider the reasons why you’re interested in them. As you gather more and more information about yourself, you’ll eventually reach a deeper understanding of what you’re looking for—both personally and professionally.
A ton of online resources are available to help you research careers and industries. Start with sites like Vault.com and Wetfeet.com. You’ll also want to visit the websites of companies you’re interested in so you can get a better understanding of their business and gather information on possible jobs or internships.
Me: How do you compare casual dating with internships, projects and volunteer work?
Shawn Graham: They offer you and the company an opportunity to get to know each other better without being locked into a long-term commitment. They’re a great way to gain valuable work experience you can put on your resume and can also help you choose your career path. Since these options are short-term in nature (8-10 weeks), you don’t have to worry about making a long-term commitment as you learn about different career fields. However, you still need to make sure you put your best foot forward by delivering high quality work.
Me: In Chapter 3, you mention networking and relate it to meeting other singles to expand your network. I assume that if someone is in a relationship, they don’t have a job opening, but do you think that should stop you from flirting with them?
Shawn Graham: That’s a loaded question. When you’re in a relationship, flirting will almost certainly get you into some serious trouble. But, when it comes to your career, it’s definitely important for you to continue to expand your professional network. You never know what doors you might be able to open up for someone else or when you might need to leverage their expertise or perspective.
Me: How many “dates” do you have to have with a companyg in order to seal the deal? I had to casually date 6 people for my first job at my company.
Shawn Graham: Two to three rounds of interviews are typical for most companies. Once you get past the first round, the interviews get more in-depth as the interviewer is trying to further evaluate your knowledge and degree of fit with the company.
Me: When you get serious about dating and are ready for the relationship, what do people need to know? Can you please touch on “it’s not you, it’s me”?
Shawn Graham: Calling an organization to say you’ve accepted a position with another company is a lot like breaking up with someone. In both cases, the other party will feel rejected, disappointed, or even angry.
When breaking up with a company, it’s best to call the person who extended you the offer directly to let them know. Don’t burn bridges. Keep your conversation short and to the point. Thank them for the opportunity. Let them know (in general terms) why you’ve decided to turn down the position. For example, are you rejecting it for a position that is more in line with your long-term career interests? Are you doing it to be closer to family? You want to be general to avoid making negative comments about the company. In the world of dating, you probably wouldn’t like it much if somebody pointed out all of the reasons he or she didn’t want to go out with you. The same holds true when you’re turning down a job offer.
Me: What inspired you to write this book and what do you want people to get out of it?
Shawn Graham: I was finding that most job seekers didn’t relate to online and print resources and, as a result, were having a difficult time navigating their job search.
I hope readers will find that even the most difficult career-related issues can be broken down and resolved using the comparisons and strategies detailed in Courting Your Career. I hope readers will leverage the advice and strategies contained in the book to help them find career success. And, if it helps them in the love department, even better.
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