An Ego is an Opportunity
May 30, 2008 at 11:13 am | In Networking, Personal Branding, Success Strategies | 6 CommentsTags: ego, identity
When you hear the word “ego” you automatically get this sensation and tingling feeling down your spine
that it’s negative. You may get defensive if someone calls you an egomaniac or says you have a big ego. In our culture there is a negative connotation around this single term. It is associated with all things evil in this world. In this post, I will rationalize the definition of ego and then explain how one of the biggest secrets in personal branding history can help you change your life for the better.
Definition of “ego”
- Round 1: An inflated feeling of pride in your superiority to others.
- Round 2: The self, especially as distinct from the world and other selves.
- Round 3: The division of the psyche that is conscious, most immediately controls thought and behavior, and is most in touch with external reality.
- Round 4: Appropriate pride in oneself; self-esteem.
- Final Round: Your consciousness of your own identity.
Analysis and thoughts
If you read each definition, the words “identity“, “pride“, “self-esteem“, “distinct” and “superiority” come right at you like a pack of wolves hunting for their prey. From analyzing and re-reading each definition, my primary conclusion is that your ego is your external personal brand that is built internally. What I mean by this is that your ego is your facial expression and personality that is seen by others, but that is ignited from within. Your ego is regulated by your internal passions and energy or lack thereof. Therefore, you have the gift and privilege to share that ego with another individual and be judged based on that experience or impression. If you don’t have “pride” in your personal brand, then I can almost guarantee that some press in your local newspaper or a pat on the back at work wont soothe your wounds or give you purpose in life.
When you were in high school, there were always bullies that would demoralize you like you were beneath them. People take advantage of others and when that individual doesn’t stand up for themself, they lose pride, self-esteem, and their ego takes a hit. An ego is a state of mind. An ego allows one individual to soar to the top of the ladder and another to take a part-time job at McDonalds. An ego is your best friend and worst enemy. You can use it for good or evil. An ego grants purpose, attitude, values, pride and an identity. Since what you do makes you who you are and how you project that to others makes you memorable, your ego is that projection.
An ego is an opportunity
I’ve already started explaining this concept to a few people in the blogosphere, who have embraced it like it was common strategy. One of my biggest learnings and best kept secrets is that if you understand what an ego is, that everyone has one and that you can play to it, you can be extremely successful. People LOVE seeing their face on a magazine, blog, on national television, in a book or heard on the radio. They also enjoy compliments and careful attention paid to their hard work. By feeding this ego wholeheartedly and without asking for something in return, you will get twice as much back and have a strong relationship with that person.
An ego is an opportunity that costs you nothing these days (It’s 2008 WOW). By interviewing or writing about another individual on the web, the probability that they will reciprocate is quite high (if not now, at a later date). It costs you nothing to promote someone else, their product or even link to their website. The bigger idea behind this is giving before receiving, but servicing an ego is the greatest and cheapest way to accomplish this. This single strategy justifies starting a blog.
Next time you bite your tongue when you hear the word “ego”, realize that catering to someone’s ego may change your life.
Change The Way You See Your Personal Brand
May 29, 2008 at 11:25 am | In Book Reviews, Personal Branding, Success Strategies | 7 CommentsTags: impact, influence, power

I recently received a copy of “Change The Way You See Yourself” by Kathryn D. Cramer and Hank Wasiak. The picture above is not a mirror reflection, but rather proves the point of the book. If you keep thinking the same way and don’t use asset based thinking, you will have problems changing the world around you. Asset-based thinking reveals how even the slightest shifts in your thinking can lead to seismic differences. By transforming the way you see your own POWER, your INFLUENCE grows exponentially and your personal IMPACT intensifies dramatically. You won’t be able to read this book in one sitting so your strategy should be to read each part individually (there are 5) and then reflect on what you’ve learned. If nothing else, this book is a reminder that a positive mental attitude can trigger personal branding success.
About the authors

Kathryn D. Cramer, Ph.D. is the Founder and Managing Partner of The Cramer Institute in St. Louis, specializing in organization change consulting, leadership and team development, and executive coaching. She and her colleagues at The Cramer Institute have pioneered the development of Asset-Based Thinking approaches to coaching, consulting, and training processes for more than twenty years.
Hank Wasiak is a communications industry leader who has worked with the corporate elite of global business throughout his 40 year career. He is co-founder of The Concept Farm, one of today’s hottest creative development companies. Hank is an Emmy award winning producer and TV host, author, entrepreneur, and teacher.
Special note from Kathryn
“I feel that the first major section of our book, Change the Way You See Power, dovetails with personal branding by showing readers how to identify their “Signature Presence” - unique set of talents, skills and capabilities, and how to unleash their personal sense of purpose and passion in pursuing career goals and getting business results. I particularly like the ABT communication tools and invitation to chart the future using the storyboard techniques found in the fourth section of the book called Change the Way You See the Future.”
Memorable quotes
- “Personal power comes from leveraging the assets that make you, you.”
- “Calling yourself to action in service of a worthy cause gives meaning to your life.”
- “Showing up is a straightforward act, but it’s HOW you show up that makes all the difference…”
- “Stand for something…It’s your personal platform.”
- “Your shortcomings and flaws actually increase your personal power exponentially when you reveal them for the sake of setting an example, righting a wrong, or accomplishing a greater good.”
- “Feeling the pain, passion, delight, and moods of another creates mutually empathetic feelings of freedom and safety.”
- “Express the deeper meaning and significance of your call to action in one powerful sentence that reveals your might cause.”
Brand Mystery 11 - Have You Heard of This Personal Brand?
May 28, 2008 at 11:29 am | In Brand Mystery, People, Personal Branding | 26 CommentsI’ve written some pretty extensive and intensive posts lately and now it’s time to take a breather. In the personal branding world, sometimes we need to rejuvenate and replenish our minds, so we can focus on what’s important. In my universe that means working on my book, full-time corporate job and magazine. Today is another episode of a game I call “Brand Mystery,” where you guess who the personal brand is and receive a link on the following game in the series.
Brand Mystery 10 Winner: Scott Gow was right in guessing Jeff Taylor. Sadly Scott never left a link to his site in the comments section previously, so I cannot reward him through link love.
Now it’s time to reveal the latest personal brand image. Leave your guesses in the comments section.
Good luck everyone!

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